The Laws of Attraction:
How science defends R/Hr and H/G ships
An original editorial by E.M. Ellison.
My first husband had sandy-blond hair and blue eyes like my father. He was also the
personality combination of that irresponsible, neglectful father and an abusive
stepfather. My second husband is a physical and behavioral representative of several
decent father figures in my life, plus some positive aspects (there actually were a
few) of the two I mentioned before. Why am I sharing my personal life with the
reading public? To show you, the readers, that our trio and their friends will
respond similarly with regard to which people attract them. It's scientific.
It has been observed by many a behavioral and psychological expert that people (I
think this mostly applies to heterosexuals, but I'm sure there are exceptions) are
attracted to those that remind them of the opposite sex parent or parental figure
in some way. My own experience has shown this, as I said earlier. Even those attracted
to people of different races will find someone that reminds them in some way of a very
significant parental representative.
The influence of a negative parent can be obviously countered if a strong enough
substitute or substitutes are present. This is especially true if the negative
parent is removed. But, unfortunately, the opposite can be true as well.
The most famous example I can think of regarding parental influence of attraction
is former U.S. President Clinton. Now don't send me any hate mail. I think he
is basically a decent guy and made a good president. But, while he made a good
politcal choice with Hillary (not to say he doesn't love her), he seemed to always be
drawn to people more like his mother. Think about it. Hillary is independent and
understated. But Paula (yeah, I believe her), Monica, and some of the others whose
names I forget are southern, flashy, voluptuous and/or slightly vulnerable. And
yes, his mother was vulnerable. What can be more vulnerable than a widow with a
Now, as an aside, I think most of his problems with women stem from addiction. Just
as his stepfather was an alcoholic (more parental influence) Clinton's drug of
choice is sex.
Now, on to the next branch of science:
BIOLOGY (Genetics, specifically)
It has been observed--once again by respected professionals--that people are
attracted to those genetically opposite them in some way. Now this varies in degree.
Some will find an opposite in one characteristic such as eye color or face shape.
Others will be much more extreme and be attracted to different races. For example,
if the Weasley's were real, Mum and Dad would differ only in eye color and shades of
red hair. At the other extreme, I know a couple in which one is German and the other
African-American. Their children have very different characteristics but all three
The reason, say scientists, for this genetic "opposites attract" is that variation
helps perpetuate the species. Like Mr. Weasley said in CoS, "If we hadn't started
marrying Muggles we would have died out long ago."
So, my theories are as follows: Ron is attracted to Hermione because she has a
strong, almost over-bearing personality like his mother. She is also the
brown-haired, brown-eyed genetic opposite to Ron's red hair and blue eyes. We don't
really know what her father is like but Ron is obviously her opposite genetically as
My thoughts about Harry and Ginny are similar. Mr. Weasley is kind, humble and
stands up for what he believes. (He could have stopped defending Muggles long ago
and been higher up in the Ministry.) These are all traits Harry possesses. The black
hair counters the red and the bright green eyes, while not blue like Dad's, are
nonetheless very different from deep brown. Ginny is very much like Lily in that she
stands up for people (Neville) just as Lily did (Snape). Ginny also doesn't put up
with Harry's moodiness anymore than Lily put up with James' cockiness and
immaturity. To Harry, Ginny's red hair is both a parental reminder (Lily) and genetic
opposite. And, of course, we've already been over their eye color.
All this being said, there can only be one conclusion: Ron belongs with Hermione and
Harry with Ginny. It's scientific.